Well I can update much of my posts to say if it ain't nothing else it's probably the head gasket. In my case it was definitely cracked. No oil in the coolant but vice-versa, plenty coolant in the oil. This was the culmination of what must have been a hairline crack that expanded, but nonetheless it was responsible for a lot of issues. Mike said he prefers the OEM gasket but I went with the fel pro, that's what was on there before and it may not be as good, but it's what I got. Incidentally the dealer has the OEM for less.
On the head bolts you can add me to the list of USA made tools broken on the job. I used an SK 3/8 dr. and it sailed through the first 9 bolts. But the 10th bolt (3rd inside the valve cover from the front) was a mother, snapped that hex socket and left me just enough of the stub to finish the job thankfully. The bolt that did it had severe carbonized build up and it left a good chunk of itself down in the hole. I'm wondering if others have found this to be the case. Both the 9,10 pair were far more pitted than the rest and took a socket all the way to the top. In hindsight it's thankful that I used the smaller dr. 3/8 I think because in that case it was either the socket or the bolt breaking. I guess the best that can be done is to clean the bolts with steel wool and hope for the best putting them back in the same holes they were in.
Tomorrow the head goes to the machine shop to see if it needs resurfacing.